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Domination and torture are a massive part of many people’s sex lives. It allows them to explore physical avenues and aspects of their psyches that they may have kept locked-up for some time. For the dominant party, there is great responsibility involved; while the interplay is consensual and your partner has agreed and is even delighted to be submissive, you have to know when the pain or humiliation is too much for them to deal with. How do you know when enough is enough?
June 2013
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After university, the first thing I did was go backpacking. Wary of being a 24 year-old, attractive blonde, travelling on my own, I took my friend, Chelsea, with me.
May 2013
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Off the back of the book, 50 Shades of Grey, there has been a renewed interest in the world of S&M. However, for those who are new to the game, the sheer range of toys, gadgets and gizmos available can be a little daunting. Let’s have a look at the five S&M toys that no self-respecting Sub or Dom should be without:
May 2013
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There comes a point in every long-term relationship when what happens in the bedroom starts to get a little routine. Let’s face it: you know each other inside out and you know which buttons to press; it’s a far cry from the heady days when you were just starting to find out about each other’s likes and dislikes, between the sheets. However, it doesn’t have to be all doom and gloom; there are a few simple tricks you can use to get things all revved up again – but the main trick is to make sure it doesn’t look like it’s all about you!
April 2013
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Whether you’re a seasoned S&M player or you’re new to the game, it’s always worth reminding yourself of the basics. S&M is a passionate pursuit and it’s too easy to let yourself get carried away. However, even though this activity might be considered by some to be deviant in nature, there is still a code of behavior that must be adhered to. Here are the five essential rules for S&M:
April 2013
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Bondage is enjoying something of a renaissance and thousands of couples regularly enjoy this form of sex play, across the UK. However, unless you’ve got the space or have access to your own dungeon, it can be difficult to take domestic bondage beyond the handcuff-level. If you’d like to enjoy bondage with your partner, but don’t want to see your bedroom dominated by specialist equipment or littered with cuffs, then maybe you need to invest in a set of sports sheets.
March 2013
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S&M is enjoyed by couples across the country, on a daily basis. There are a variety of practices that come under the blanket term of ‘S&M’, including light bondage play to anal play, mental and physical torture and even more extreme practices, such as using electrical stimulation. When it comes to limits, you are, effectively, only limited by your imagination and your creative nature. However, there are physical limits that are worth bearing in mind when undertaking any form of S&M sex play.
March 2013
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Bondage tends to be perceived as a practice in which men are the dominant force. Most pornography depicts scenarios in which a woman is bound and gagged, leaving the man to do with her whatever he fancies. However, a growing number of men are admitting that they prefer being tied up to being the active party. The question is ‘why?’
March 2013
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If you have even a passing interest in the world of S&M, then you are probably aware of the terms Dom and Sub; a Dom is the dominant party in sexual role-play, whilst the Sub is the submissive one. In thinking about it, you’ve probably got an image of a leather-clad guy barking orders at a bound girl. However, while there is an element of demand from the Dom, there is more to being in charge than just getting someone to do what you want.
February 2013
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Many couples find wax-play an erotic and rewarding aspect of their sex-lives. Most of us have seen examples of it in films, such as Body of Evidence, in which Madonna drips hot wax on Willem Dafoe. Consequently, there have been couples who have attempted wax-play of this sort but, as they haven’t been aware of the finer details, have found it to be painful and unpleasant. However, wax-play can be enjoyed by newbies, as part of S&M sessions, as long as you bear a few things in mind.
January 2013
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I’d been working as a WPC for about a month when I heard about Sindy, the new girl. It was hard not to; all the guys were full of how hot she was; long, blonde hair, hot little body and lips that weren’t designed for sucking lollipops. I was quite excited about meeting her, too. Although I’ve had a few boyfriends, I’m bi-sexual and the thought of a hottie in the Force was a good one. Being quite hot myself, I’d got a lot of attention off the others fellers, but I wasn’t going to mix business with pleasure. But, aside from hearing how hot Sindy was, I also kept hearing how clumsy she was.
January 2013
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S&M is part of an alternative form of sexual expression, involving a Dom and a Sub. As you might expect, the Dom is in charge of the actions, orgasms and, to a degree, the will of the Sub. However, if you’re new to domination, there is more to it than simply ordering someone around. The interaction between the Dom and the Sub is more akin to a seduction; the Dom seduces the Sub with his power, while the Sub seduces the Dom with his malleability.
December 2012
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The vast majority of people are aware of what an orgasm is, but not everyone is aware of the forced orgasm. A forced orgasm is used during S&M, often after a period of ‘torture.’ It often involves the Dom repeating sexual contact, but perhaps stopping when climax is imminent. In addition, the Sub is required to delay orgasm for as long as possible.
December 2012
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You may have seen photos of people wearing them and even seen films withthem being used, but how much do you know abouy the world of gags? And we're not talking comedians, here...
December 2012
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Many couples, when they have gotten comfortable with each other in the bedroom, like to indulge in S&M.
November 2012
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Bondage is enjoyed by thousands of couples across the UK on a daily basis. Chains, ropes and silk ties are used to restrict the movement of one of the participants, in a practice that is reported to heighten sexual arousal and intensify orgasm. However, to the uninitiated, bondage can appear deviant and bizarre. What is it that’s so good about bondage – and why does it work?
October 2012
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The party had drawn to a close, but the usual suspects were still there: me, Jojo, Hayley and our old friends, Mark, who’d recently come back after living abroad for a few years. What made the party even more special is that we all grew up on the same street and Hayley had just bought back her old family home to live in. We were sat together in the expansive attic, muzzily sipping wine and talking about our childhoods.
October 2012
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If you feel that you might want to explore the world of submissive sex, but don’t know where to start, then using a submission phone chat service might be just the thing for you
September 2012
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It was the evening of the fancy-dress party and my boyfriend, Charles had just given me a right old seeing-to in the shower. We were supposed to be changing into our costumes, but I was enjoying the post-sex afterglow and just lying on the bed. OK, I’d managed to put on my pointed ears and my elbow-length gloves and tied on my tail-belt, but I wasn’t looking anything like the tiger I was supposed to; more like a contented pussy-cat.
September 2012
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Punishment is a regular and healthy part of many people’s sex lives. There are generally two parties involved: the dominant (Dom) and the submissive (Sub). While there has been plenty written from the Dom’s point of view, there is relatively little information available to Subs as to how to get the most from their punishment.
September 2012
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I’m twenty-nine, with blue eyes, jet-black hair and a pair of breasts that I lovingly call ‘the Goldilocks girls’; they’re not too big, not too small – they’re just right. I got into swinging a couple of years ago, introduced to the scene by my ex-boyfriend. Although we split-up, I couldn’t get enough of the group-sex thing and I’ve kept going. Although I like guys, I like the feel of a woman, too and girl on girl sex is a very different experience. But, given the choice, I like my guys hot and hard.
September 2012
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My friend, Wanda, has a wicked sense of humour. Ever since I split up with my last boyfriend, she’s taken me out, once a month to commemorate my latest anniversary of being single.
September 2012
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Weirdly, I got my job as a magician’s assistant after seeing Paul appear at a friend’s birthday party. After his card-tricks, we ended up chatting and he was saying how he needed a new assistant. I offered myself up and he nodded, approvingly: I’m twenty-five, with a slim figure, long legs and a blonde bob. I met him a week later, at his workshop.
August 2012
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You’ve tried the cuffs, played with blindfolds and maybe even dusted the ropes down so, if you’ve discovered that bondage is for you, where do you go next? Bondage Gear The answer is to shop around. Cuffs and blindfolds and ropes are just the beginning; there’s a whole world of bondage gear out there that can make your love-life even more exciting and explosive than you thought possible.
August 2012
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Sexual humiliation tends to bring with it ideas of extreme sexual behaviour. Generally, we tend to think of people in pain or restricted in their movements to such a point that the sexual aspect of the play can no longer be pleasurable. However, if approached less-seriously, aspects of humiliation can be a fun way for both parties to release their stress and enjoy great sex.
July 2012
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Many people are curious about how to use domination in the bedroom and whips are a small part of that fetish. Using whips can add an extra dimension to your sex-life; the sensation of being whipped or spanked helps to release endorphins within the brain, creating a natural high similar to the buzz athletes get after extreme sports. This, in turn can lead to sex of a sort you may not have experienced before.
June 2012
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Using handcuffs in the bedroom can be a great way to spice up your sex life. For some, they are the closest you’ll ever need to get to having your own, personal sex-dungeon; they are a form of restraint and can put one partner in the position of power, while the other has to become submissive. However, as with any restraining device, there are certain things you ought to bear in mind.
May 2012
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When I found out my fella, Mark, was coming back from active duty on Easter Sunday, I decided to arrange a surprise for him
April 2012
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They say that the march of a thousand miles begins with a single step and the same is true of your first time at and S&M club. As much as you’re going to be excited, you’re also going to be nervous, but there are a few things you can do to make your first visit as relaxed as possible.
April 2012
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No, it’s not a martial art – although, with enough practice, you might be able to leave your partner incapacitated for a while! Kinbaku is a Japanese form of bondage or BDSM. It has grown significantly in the west over the last decade, particularly on the fetish scene. But how do you learn the ropes?
March 2012
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OK, so you’ve exhausted the bed, burnt your knees on the stair carpet and got the obligatory splinters from the kitchen table – what’s left? Sex swings, once a staple of 1970’s porn films, are making a comeback; redesigned for the 21st Century. But the big question is: are they any good?
March 2012
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Bondage and rough sex can be a great part of anyone’s sex life but, if you want to take things a bit further and really indulge yourself, you’re going to need to find a dungeon.
March 2012
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If you have the room, you’d build a playroom for kids – so why not build one for adults? Many people enjoy getting down ‘n’ dirty in sex dungeons, so why not build one of your own. Of course, there are likely to be a few hurdles to overcome...
March 2012
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An ex-boyfriend of mine, Paul, used to share a flat with his best mate, Chris. They were both sexy guys and closer than brothers; I mean, they used to share everything...
February 2012
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For many guys, the thought of being at the mercy of a dominatrix is an exciting one. It’s generally a practice enjoyed by ‘type A’ personalities; men who hold positions of responsibility on a daily basis, such as CEOs, lawyers, executives and politicians.
February 2012
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Think of bondage and you immediately think of a submissive begging for mercy as they are teased or tortured.
January 2012