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There’s a lot of confusion about the words ‘kinky’ and ‘fetish’, primarily because there’s a difference between the two that most people don’t really understand. Many mistake a kink for having a fetish, which couldn’t be further from the truth. So, what’s the difference and how do you know whether you’re just a bit kinky or whether your sexual behaviour is indicative of full-blown fetishism? Let’s take a look at what the words actually mean…
May 2013
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Fire-fighters, the police, doctors and nurses; t here’s something about a uniform that can drive a man or a woman wild. There are even clubs dedicated to organising events where people turn up, dressed in adult-sized school uniforms. But what is it about the uniform that makes them sexy? Being In Control Uniforms can be broken down into a number of categories but, broadly speaking, they are either worn by people in positions of authority or people who take time to care for others. But it’s not the care aspect that makes them look hot; it’s an idea that they somehow know what they’re doing, that they’re in control. Many female fantasies involve firemen who, in those fantasies, are strong, assertive and know how to show that woman a good time.
May 2013
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Dogging has received a lot of attention in recent months but people have been doing it for many years. The dawn of the Internet and mobile phone technology has made it easier for doggers to find each other and there is plenty of information about places where to meet. If you’re interested in going dogging for the first time, there are a few things you ought to know.
May 2013
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If you have ever enjoyed a blue movie, the chances are that you may have seen a woman squirting. Generally, these women seem to reach an incredible orgasm which is followed by something akin to an ejaculation; fluid squirts from the vagina. While this may look like something that can only be achieved by gifted porn stars, the truth is that it you can make your girlfriend squirt. If you fancy give her the orgasm of a lifetime, here’s what you need to know:
May 2013
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There are countless stories in the press about male celebrities being caught in compromising situations with transsexuals. There are probably countless more stories that have never made it to the papers. But why should this be? Is it an indicator that guys who like transsexuals are secretly gay, themselves?
April 2013
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Whether you’re getting round to taking a new girlfriend to bed for the first time or you’re looking for a way to get a bit more sizzle between the sheets, the bedroom is often overlooked. Your bedroom is the arena for all sorts of activity, from sex to sleeping, but you want a bit more action than you do snoozing, then there are a few things you can do to turn your bedroom into the perfect room for sex.
April 2013
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There comes a point in every long-term relationship when what happens in the bedroom starts to get a little routine. Let’s face it: you know each other inside out and you know which buttons to press; it’s a far cry from the heady days when you were just starting to find out about each other’s likes and dislikes, between the sheets. However, it doesn’t have to be all doom and gloom; there are a few simple tricks you can use to get things all revved up again – but the main trick is to make sure it doesn’t look like it’s all about you!
April 2013
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Sex dolls have definitely got the edge over hand-held masturbators. They give you the chance to get down and dirty on a hands-free basis and allow you to experiment with a variety of positions; sex dolls aren’t a toy for perverts or deviants – they’re a great way to learn about what you do and don’t like and to help you improve your sexual stamina. However, if you’ve never bought a sex doll before, the sheer choice available can be rather daunting. Let’s have a look at how to choose the best sex doll for your needs.
April 2013
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Being attracted to Asian women isn’t a fetish and nor does it mean that you can’t handle a relationship with a woman of your own race. On the contrary, it just means that you know what you like and are comfortable in that. But what is it about Asian women that makes them so attractive?
April 2013
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The idea of popping in through the back-door is a real turn-on for most men. It’s tighter experience and the sense of the forbidden only adds to the pleasure. Throw plenty of lube in and you’re practically guaranteed a good time. But what about your girlfriend? Is she enjoying it in the same way as you? Do women like anal sex?
March 2013
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I’d known Simon for a few weeks. On our dates, he was funny and charming and blessed with a twinkle in his eye that I found very attractive. He kept insisting that I was ‘out of his league’, describing me as looking like a young Sharon Stone. We’d dated, hung out and I’d found out a lot about him; particularly his love of those American ‘crime scene’ dramas – which I kind of liked. We’d sit on the sofa with a glass of wine and try and work out whodunnit.
March 2013
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Mt fella, Pete, likes to think of himself as something of a handyman. Although he’s only in his thirties, he’s the old-fashioned sort: likes his tea at a certain time and he’s the one to do the odd-jobs around the house. I think he was attracted to me for my English Rose looks: I’ve got blonde, curly hair, a slender frame and one of those faces that always look completely innocent.
March 2013
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I’ve always been a sporty kind of girl and when the chance came up to join my local netball team, I jumped at the chance. I’m only in my mid-twenties, with a killer figure but, as far as I’m concerned, there’s always room for improvement.
March 2013
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Many people like the idea of S&M. but are unsure as to what the terms mean. Indeed, there is a bit of jargon bandied around in the S&M world and it can be confusing to those who have only gently put their toes in the water. In essence, there are two parties involved in an S&M session: the dominant (Dom) and the submissive (Sub). While the motives behind being a Dom are fairly self-evident, what is it that drives people to being Subs?
March 2013
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If you’ve watched porn, then you’ve probably seen those scenes in which, during sex, a man with put his hands around his partner’s neck and choke her. Far from being the terrifying or painful idea that most of us might think it’s going to be, the women in these films tend to seem to be enjoying themselves. Choking – also know as Erotic Asphyxiation – is a practice that we tend only to hear of when a celebrity has been found hanging in a wardrobe, throttled by a pair of tights. However, practiced safely, choking can add an extra dimension to sex.
March 2013
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The primary consumers of transsexual pornography are straight men. Transsexual porn is the most widely-searched sexual fetish on the Internet and the videos, DVDs and online porn available is targeted at heterosexual males. However, while many men enjoy watching transsexual porn, many worry that it somehow hints at a latent homosexuality; is there in any truth in this?
March 2013
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Bondage tends to be perceived as a practice in which men are the dominant force. Most pornography depicts scenarios in which a woman is bound and gagged, leaving the man to do with her whatever he fancies. However, a growing number of men are admitting that they prefer being tied up to being the active party. The question is ‘why?’
March 2013
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While it might be a surprise to many weight-obsessed women, many men actually prefer their partners to have a bit of meat on them. Hollywood, the newspapers and the media are almost telling us the size and shape of the women we should find attractive; generally, stick-thin and with boyish figures. However, recent research suggests that larger women are actually starting win the beauty battle, being perceived as more desirable that their curveless counterparts. Here are five reasons why men find the larger woman more attractive:
March 2013
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It might be a police outfit, a nurse’s costume, a pair of greasy overalls or even a nun’s habit, but there’s no denying the fact that many, many men get hot under the collar when they see a woman in uniform. But, role-play outfits aside, what’s the reasoning behind this little kink that most guys seem happy to admit to?
February 2013
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Adding a MILF to the notches on the bedpost is a burning desire for many younger guys. But why should this be? On paper, MILFs don’t have an awful lot going for them: by definition, they’ll have a child; they’re likely to have been around the block a few times and may even have packed some emotional baggage on their travels. So what is it that makes these women so attractive?
February 2013
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Let’s face it; oral sex can be a bit of a chore for many guys. There’s always the possibility that you’re going down on a girl who takes ages to get screaming, which can leave you with that feeling that your jaws are going to lock and that you wish it would just hurry up and end. However, the Tahitian method for oral is a technique that not only speeds things up, but makes the whole experience more intense for your girlfriend. The result: it doesn’t take as long and it makes you look like some silver-tongued hero.
February 2013
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Although my husband’s into humiliation, I think he’s met his match in me. We’re not a conventional couple; I’m a big girl, with all the curves in all the right places and Jim is a tattooed biker with more piercings than I care to think about.
February 2013
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You may have taken part in electrostimulation – or electro play – without even realising it. Have you ever used a vibrator on your girlfriend? Or maybe you’ve allowed her to place it on your genitals and discovered the sensations that can be caused by the electrical vibrations. Either way, this is just the tip of the electro play iceberg. Electro play is the use of a safe, electrical current to enhance feelings of sexual arousal and even to attain orgasm. It’s an excellent way to explore the boundaries between pleasure and pain without doing you or your partner any discernible damage.
January 2013
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Many couples find wax-play an erotic and rewarding aspect of their sex-lives. Most of us have seen examples of it in films, such as Body of Evidence, in which Madonna drips hot wax on Willem Dafoe. Consequently, there have been couples who have attempted wax-play of this sort but, as they haven’t been aware of the finer details, have found it to be painful and unpleasant. However, wax-play can be enjoyed by newbies, as part of S&M sessions, as long as you bear a few things in mind.
January 2013
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If the bedroom’s looking a bit boring and the kitchen table-legs are starting to get a bit wobbly, then maybe you need to take your sex-life outdoors. Many couples have experienced the illicit thrill of getting a little ‘carried away’ on holiday and yearn to recreate the excitement. For others, it’s a secret fantasy that they’ve never been bold enough to commit to, perhaps through fear of the Law. If you’ve never tried it, but you want to, then here are some pointers about how to make al fresco sex safe – and legal
January 2013
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It’s your first time at a sex club. You’re probably excited about what the event holds, but you’re also probably a bit nervous; you want to make sure that you don’t break any of the rules – particularly the unspoken ones. Aside from the rules of the club, which should be on display somewhere, there are a few points of etiquette you ought to bear in mind.
January 2013
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Lube is now a common feature on the shelves in most chemists and supermarkets and the breadth of choice is staggering; there are lubes for him, lubes for her, lubes to increase sensation and even lubes that make parts of you taste like fruit or mint. The only downside is that lubes seldom come with instructions, which is fine if you know what you’re doing; not so good if you don’t. Here are four reasons why lube can be a good thing and how you can use it to make more of your time in the bedroom:
December 2012
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We’re not trying to encourage you to reduce your partner to tears of laughter; this is tickling on a very different level. Get it right and you can give your wife or girlfriend that elusive full-body orgasm, complete with those shivery aftershocks.
December 2012
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The vast majority of people are aware of what an orgasm is, but not everyone is aware of the forced orgasm. A forced orgasm is used during S&M, often after a period of ‘torture.’ It often involves the Dom repeating sexual contact, but perhaps stopping when climax is imminent. In addition, the Sub is required to delay orgasm for as long as possible.
December 2012
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You may have seen photos of people wearing them and even seen films withthem being used, but how much do you know abouy the world of gags? And we're not talking comedians, here...
December 2012
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Many couples, when they have gotten comfortable with each other in the bedroom, like to indulge in S&M.
November 2012
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Latex comes with a number of connotations; it’s perceived as wild, daring and kinky. Yet, in spite of this, latex is worn by thousands of fetishists across the UK, in their bedrooms and at fetish sex parties, as a means to intensify sexual pleasure. However, for those who are new to the scene, it can seem shrouded in mystery – not least, the basic principles in looking after your latex wear.
October 2012
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Bondage is enjoyed by thousands of couples across the UK on a daily basis. Chains, ropes and silk ties are used to restrict the movement of one of the participants, in a practice that is reported to heighten sexual arousal and intensify orgasm. However, to the uninitiated, bondage can appear deviant and bizarre. What is it that’s so good about bondage – and why does it work?
October 2012
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According to research by psychotherapist, Dr David Delvin, it is estimated that at least one in a hundred men is a transvestite. While this figure is hard to be definite about, what is certain is that transvestism doesn’t automatically make a man gay; the majority of transvestites are straight men, who simply enjoy the thrill of wearing women’s clothing. In no way does this reflect upon their sexuality; he believes that “cross-dressing comes within the normal range of male sexuality unless it becomes a compulsive obsession.”
October 2012
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Phone sex can be a great way to bridge the gap between those periods when you and your partner can get together and get it on. However, there’s another added benefit to getting down and dirty on the phone: it can actually help you when it comes to face-to-face action.
October 2012
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The party had drawn to a close, but the usual suspects were still there: me, Jojo, Hayley and our old friends, Mark, who’d recently come back after living abroad for a few years. What made the party even more special is that we all grew up on the same street and Hayley had just bought back her old family home to live in. We were sat together in the expansive attic, muzzily sipping wine and talking about our childhoods.
October 2012
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I love to be spanked during sex, but my boyfriend just won’t deliver the goods. Most guys would jump at the chance of getting their hands on my backside; I’m a black girl in her thirties and I teach yoga for a living. I’m supple and I’m hot. I decided to confess in my friend, Olivia. She’s also a yoga teacher; tall, slender and fit.
October 2012
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It is well-documented that many women develop voracious sexual appetites during pregnancy; the sensation of orgasm can be more intense and the hormone-surges they experience can mean that they are more easily turned-on. However, many men find the state of pregnancy incredibly arousing, even causing some men to actively seek out pregnant women as sex partners. What is it about pregnant women that can have such a profound effect on some guys?
September 2012
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Words are powerful things; they can affect our moods quite profoundly. Take a moment to consider a time when you’ve been complimented and a time when you’ve been insulted and try and recapture the way each made you feel.
September 2012
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It was the evening of the fancy-dress party and my boyfriend, Charles had just given me a right old seeing-to in the shower. We were supposed to be changing into our costumes, but I was enjoying the post-sex afterglow and just lying on the bed. OK, I’d managed to put on my pointed ears and my elbow-length gloves and tied on my tail-belt, but I wasn’t looking anything like the tiger I was supposed to; more like a contented pussy-cat.
September 2012
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If you’re into being dominated, you might have decided it’s time to find someone to take care of your needs: a dominatrix. While you might have some fantasy of a busty brunette, dressed in latex and studs, going at you with a whip, there is actually far more to a good dominatrix than the assortment of equipment you might find in her dungeon.
September 2012
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Transvestism, whilst more commonly accepted in the 21st Century, is still very difficult for many people to talk about. There are still a number of myths and fallacies flying about, but the real problem is that, with no-one to talk to, those who suspect they might be transvestites have no way of confirming it or not.
August 2012
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Most people have heard of the Kama Sutra, but few actually know what it holds within its pages. It might be worth investing in a copy for your bookshelf as it can take snuggling up with a book to new heights.
August 2012
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I knew my husband used porn; we’ve been married for five years and I think it’d be weird if he didn’t. That said, it was still a shock to find a stack of his magazines in the garage – and they all had one thing in common: all of the models were shaven between their legs.
August 2012
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It’s not that I’m an exhibitionist; I just get a real buzz out of having sex in unusual places. I’m in my mid-twenties, with short, cropped hair, a rather large bust and long, slender legs. Generally, I’ll wear a tight t-shirt, denim shorts and trainers with long socks; my fella, Sam, likes it that way.
August 2012
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You’ve tried the cuffs, played with blindfolds and maybe even dusted the ropes down so, if you’ve discovered that bondage is for you, where do you go next? Bondage Gear The answer is to shop around. Cuffs and blindfolds and ropes are just the beginning; there’s a whole world of bondage gear out there that can make your love-life even more exciting and explosive than you thought possible.
August 2012
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I’ve never been much of a one for office parties, but when you’ve got to go, you’ve got to go. The company I work for is pretty well-to-do; it’s a graphic design company and, once a year, they throw a huge bash with a theme. This year, it was Arabian Nights, so an events company set up some huge tents, filled with cushions and atmospheric lighting and even a belly-dancer.
July 2012
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Sexual humiliation tends to bring with it ideas of extreme sexual behaviour. Generally, we tend to think of people in pain or restricted in their movements to such a point that the sexual aspect of the play can no longer be pleasurable. However, if approached less-seriously, aspects of humiliation can be a fun way for both parties to release their stress and enjoy great sex.
July 2012
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Sexual role-play is enjoyed by many couples across the UK, on a daily basis. It heightens sexual pleasure, by allowing people to act out their sexual fantasies in a safe and controlled environment.
July 2012
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Gags are used on a daily basis, across the country, as part of many couple’s sex lives. However, the reasons for using gags can differ and yours will influence the type of gag you choose.
July 2012
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Many people are curious about how to use domination in the bedroom and whips are a small part of that fetish. Using whips can add an extra dimension to your sex-life; the sensation of being whipped or spanked helps to release endorphins within the brain, creating a natural high similar to the buzz athletes get after extreme sports. This, in turn can lead to sex of a sort you may not have experienced before.
June 2012
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Humiliation is a very particular fetish, although it is enjoyed by many people as part of their sex-lives. If you are considering introducing humiliation into your bedroom, there are a few things you might want to think about first.
May 2012
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Most of us have some sexual fantasy or other that we would like to make a reality. However, the differences between fantasy and reality can be quite pronounced. Whipping is a common fantasy for both men and women, but how can you introduce it into the bedroom?
May 2012
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They say that the march of a thousand miles begins with a single step and the same is true of your first time at and S&M club. As much as you’re going to be excited, you’re also going to be nervous, but there are a few things you can do to make your first visit as relaxed as possible.
April 2012
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I’d been going out with Mike for a few weeks, but nothing had happened between us. Sure, we’d kissed and got a bit physical – he’d even gone down on me – but we never got anywhere near full sex; whenever I’d made any move towards his cock, he’d made his excuses and gone home.
April 2012
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OK, so you’ve exhausted the bed, burnt your knees on the stair carpet and got the obligatory splinters from the kitchen table – what’s left? Sex swings, once a staple of 1970’s porn films, are making a comeback; redesigned for the 21st Century. But the big question is: are they any good?
March 2012
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Bondage and rough sex can be a great part of anyone’s sex life but, if you want to take things a bit further and really indulge yourself, you’re going to need to find a dungeon.
March 2012
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Some guys like boobs, some guys like bums and some guys like...feet. When AOL released the data of their users’ most frequent Internet searches, ‘foot fetish’ was the most popular sexual term – so it’s not as unusual as you might think. But what’s the difference between finding a girl in high-heels attractive and a full-blown foot fetish?
March 2012
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If you have the room, you’d build a playroom for kids – so why not build one for adults? Many people enjoy getting down ‘n’ dirty in sex dungeons, so why not build one of your own. Of course, there are likely to be a few hurdles to overcome...
March 2012
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Most people have a favourite body part when it comes to physical attraction. Being into breasts, buttocks or having an eye for legs is all deemed ‘normal’, but as soon as you come out of the foot locker and declare yourself interested in feet, you’re branded as ‘kinky’.
February 2012
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OK, so you’ve heard the term, but what does it actually mean? And if you want to get involved, is there anything you should know?
February 2012
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Think of bondage and you immediately think of a submissive begging for mercy as they are teased or tortured.
January 2012
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Whether they like to admit it or not, most people have a sexual fetish of some sort.
October 2011
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When most people think of domination, they imagine a setting where one person is subjecting another to a set of punishments such as spanking or verbal insults
September 2011
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Submission is a term used to describe certain behaviour used by like-minded people during sex.
September 2011